Well I have to say that today at the dog park it was okay in the morning but this afternoon the weather was appalling. More rain more cold and more.....
Almost every week in my classes, someone bursts into tears. Most of my Dog Owners/Trainers are female but sometimes it even gets too much for the boys.
Today was no exception.
I think it would be fair to say that when people adopt a dog into their family, it is like adopting a child. If this baby comes from a very tough background and has a bunch of troubles it brings with it, or if the owner has difficulties controlling, putting in place toilet things, in a busy household where there are human children and husband/wife/partner and home things, then the extra stresses can be extremely difficult to bear.
One of my special handlers said to me last week 'I just get so mad when she rushes at the door I yell..'
Yep you bet you do. In the lives we live in the western world, we have expectations of perfection with very few reality checks. Like it would be wise to say to the whole household 'When we get this puppy - things are going to be messy for a while' like what? You will walk into the bathroom and a big poo will be on the bath mat. I would tell my family ' Do not scream at me or the puppy', 'get some toilet paper and pick it up and put the whole lot down the toilet'. Or make proper plans and give the puppy a crate, dog kennel and run or other sensible alternative to stop this being a problem.
A lot of dogs come into families unplanned and unprepared, and it isn't going to be an issue, however it does become an issue and the puppy, or dog gets the blame and stress builds in the household and tears are shed. Children get nipped by the pup, cats disappear forever to avoid the issue and life becomes very dominated by dog needs. Even when the whole family doesn't actually know what the dog's needs are.
So sometimes when people come to class with their puppy or dog, they are at the end of their tether, the whole dog ownership thing has rather become a burden and the joys of owning a loving dog are eclipsed by the enormous financial damage the dog has done to the family and the emotional damage which has caused family members to become upset with each other.
So when we start to train, the handlers are stiff, uptight, and really unhappy. Then the dog does something great and works for them and ignores all the distractions, and they see their dog doing this and they cry. Or worse as happened today, a girl GSD ran into the face of a boy GSD who was on leash with his owner and he retaliated and sent her on her way. The owner of the boy GSD was so concerned her lovely pet, who had never shown any aggression to her tiny pet dogs at home had growled and lurched, she burst into tears. The handler of the girl GSD had pushed her dog into the face of the boy, I asked her to drop the lead and walk away and she did and her girl dog turned and went with her. Everybody in the class wanted to know if this was normal behavior for dogs. The answer of course is 'yes'. There was no connection between the two dogs, they grizzled at each other and it didn't look good. Boy GSD was defending his owner, and that is okay, girl GSD was the aggressor and within 10seconds had changed her mind, especially as she didn't have the support of her owner who had walked away, as asked.
It is quite hard to explain to people that their dog may not always accept every dog or human being plonked in it's face, and it may be wiser to slow down the socialisation process until the dogs have sucked up a bit of perfume from the other dogs and people around it. In other words try to keep introductions low key, don't push your dog into the face of other dogs or people, you might bite off more than you can chew , but unfortunately the dog will probably bite exactly what it wants to chew and you will be left feeling that your dog is an aggressive and difficult individual. This probably isn't the case.
Get good training people, don't get all emotional about your dog, it is not a human being. Rationalise and work with your dog and you will be amazed at the great pay back. On the other hand, it will not say 'I love you Mama'. so don't expect it to act like a human being.
Is dog training hard, yes it can be, but it is only if you make it that way. Carry on with your life and tie the dog up when you need to, shut it in it's crate when you need to, put it in it's run when you need to, and don't say, 'gee I am sorry dog I think I am failing you'. Get out and do the exercise stuff, join a dog club and give your dog the hour or two a day that you can afford, it will be just fine.
I think the really committed people in our communities are lovingly overdoing it, and those who are born abusers are doing dreadful things, but somewhere there is a middle line of respect and expectation and that is what I try to bring to all the dog training I do.
Try not to cry, but if you do I am happy to give you a cuddle and tell you all will be well, and boy do I get some good cuddles.
Raewyn Saville 14-9-12

